What Are Your Thoughts on Abstinence?
Saturday January 17, 2009
AlterNet.com has an interesting new story about virginity pledges and whether or not they are a useful thing for teenagers.
The author of the article argues that teens who take these pledges aren't any less likely to wait until they get married to have sex. What do you think? Join the debate by clicking the "Comments" link below this post.
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I think Virginity pledges CAN be a good thing, but then again, they have to mean something to the person making the pledge. You have to decide for yourself whether you want to stay a virgin or not. But don’t wait until the “heat of the moment” to decide. Because you will probably end up making a decision that will bring you pain. I know a couple teens who have lost their virginity already and they don’t feel good about it. And don’t rationalize with yourself! Don’t say, oh, everyone’s doing it, because the truth….most everyone is NOT! And one day when you get married, your spouse is going to want you to be a virgin. It’s hard to believe now, I know, but honestly, getting involved in sex of any kind will bring you heartache down the road. It may seem like “fun” now, but later on, you will look back and say, how could I be so stupid? Don’t do it! It’s not worth it….no matter how much you think you “love” him or her.
I’m loving my husband….and I haven’t even met him yet! I don’t think he’d like knowing I “got around.”
Pre-marital sex isn’t just against my religion, I think it leads to all sorts of problems and in a way, it’s gross. You could end up sleeping with (or just dating) someone who slept with a family member or close friend, and that’s just nasty.
So I’ve made my pledge - out of love for my future husband.
I don’t believe in love just being once. I think if it’s real love, and it feels right, and both people agree, sex is a good thing, not a bad, within marriage or without.
sexuality is a issue of personal responsibility but its no doubt the consequences of premarital sex are devastating especially if you are not ready for the feelings that sex offers and i personally feel waiting till one is ready in all the other sectors such as emotionally,financially,physically and morally.
I used to think I would be a virgin till marriage, but then I met my first girlfriend, and well, we had sex. We’ve broken up, but I don’t regret it. It doesn’t have to be like “true love” in order to have sex, it just has to be a good relationship, I don’t think you lose anything by having sex in one of them. If you want to remain a virgin till marriage, that’s your choice and I totally respect it, but things might change, remember that.
Im a teen and ive had sex, I dont regret it at all,I love the guy i did it with. But i give props to teens who take that vow and keep it, it takes alot of will power.
your future husband? dont give me that shit, with the divorce rate at hm lets see here… um… REALLY FUCKIN HIGH! what are the chances you will love your future husband forever? wich future husband? first, second or third? trust me you wont fuck one man your whole life, wake up from your naive teenage dreams, when you do you will realise that eternity is A LONG FUCKING TIME! so you know what maddi, fuck your beliefs, fuck your god and fuck you!
I think that teens should wait til they are acually ready and that they shouldn’t take a pledge, they may acually be ready at the age of 15.
I think that they should jus wait til they are acually ready and that they shouldnt take a pledge, becuase they may really be ready at the age of 15. Some Teens mature differnet than others.