When you are nervous or worried the best defense can be a good offence. Here's how to look like you are filled with self confidence even when you aren't.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: N/A
Here's How:
- When you are alone let out a really big scream.
- Take a deep breath.
- Spash cold water on your face or put a cool cloth on your neck.
- Take another deep breath.
- Go face the person or situation you fear.
- Smile. Smile a lot!
- Be polite and pay attention to everything that people are saying. Everybody loves a listener.
- Nod a lot and smile some more.
- Make brief comments, if your voice is shaky. Use peoples names when speaking to them.
- Ask questions or seek clarification (even if you really do understand what the person means), but be careful not to come across as someone who isn't listening.
- Follow the conversation and do not take adversarial positions even if you disagree with what is being said. It is better to walk away from a difficult conversation.
- Go to the washroom regularly for hand sweat checks and to put cool clots on your neck.
- Keep smiling.
Tips:
- Use people's names when talking to them, it is a personal touch that exudes confidence - but make sure you have their name right!
- Hold a glass of water and sip it frequently. Do NOT gulp. Having a glass of water keeps your breath fresh and your hands busy.
- Do not initiate conversations, join in existing ones, if you are nervous being the center of a conversation can make things worse.
- Smile and maintain eye contact.
- Before shaking hands with someone, casually put your hand in your pocket to make sure your palm is dry.