If you are both really in love then a two hour trip wouldn't be able to keep you apart. Two hours by bus is nothing when the person you love is waiting on the other end. The problem with keeping a summer romance alive rarely has anything to do with the distance between two people and much more to do with adjusting to fitting this new person in to your regular routine. Lots of summer lovers find that once they are back in the swing of their regular life they lose touch with the magic that made the summer affair seem so special. This is not to say that summer love isn't real or that summer romance can't survive through the fall, it just means that keeping summer romance real has some special challenges.
If you and this boy are really in to each other a two hour trip (or a one hour trip if you each meet half way) will not stop you from staying together. You should also consider how soon one or both of you will be able to drive and if either of you will have access to a car. If it is soon then the distance is really nothing. There are other important questions you need to ask yourself, and some of them are not too pretty. Here is a list of questions to ask yourself and him before you make any decisions about making your summer fling in to the real thing.
Ask yourself...
- Will this guy fit in with your at home friends?
- Will this guy even like your at home friends?
- When you talk about your interests at school are they similar? Do you belong to the same type of clubs, groups or teams?
- Do you normally have a busy schedule that would get in the way of seeing him?
- Do you have the means (money, a job, a bus pass, a friend with a car) necessary to get to him and spend time with him?
- Do you have a relationship back home that you will have to end in order to keep this relationship?
- If you had met this guy at school instead of on vacation would you have even started seeing him?
- Does he have a steady back home or did he recently end a relationship before the summer break?
- Would he have to end a relationship in order to continue dating you? If so, would he even be willing to do that?
- Does he think that you would fit in with his back home friends?
- Is he willing to make the trip to see you and does he have the means (see above) necessary to do so?
- Is there any reason he can think of that your summer romance can't become a steady thing?
When you ask these questions be prepared for answers you may not like. Be prepared for him to tell you that he isn't interested in making things long term or that he thinks the distance is much too far. As a general rule in life, never ask a question unless you are prepared to handle all of the possible answers. That said, it may very well be that he is totally in to keeping things going past summer and that there is no real reason (other girls, his crew or time constraints) that your relationship has to end. Once you have addressed all these issues and are both committed to staying together the sky is the limit! Afterall, nobody ever said that true love can't be found in a summer fling.
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