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Teen Life Q&A Special: FAQ on Kissing
Your most frequently asked questions about kissing and making out.
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Is kissing your pillow really a good way to practice?

Not really. Pillows can't kiss back and are nothing like a real person. While practicing on your pillow can't hurt it won't make you look kiss like a Casanova either. The best practice always come from kissing a real person who you have real feelings for.

I kissed a friend of the same sex, does this mean that I am gay?

It might, or it might not. There is more involved in being gay than simply who you kiss at any given moment in time. Are you attracted to the person you kissed? Are you generally attracted to people of the same gender? Are you attracted to people of the opposite sex? Do you find it hard to connect with people of the opposite sex on a romantic level? When (if) you have opposite sex relationships do you feel like something is missing or is not right? Do you have same sex romantic fantasies? These are the types of things that determine whether or not you are gay, not one kiss.

When making out with somebody how far do you HAVE to go? If you stop too soon are you really a tease?

You only ever have to go as far as you want to go. Kissing somebody is not a promise of something more later. You are not leading somebody on or being a tease because you don't want to move beyond kissing or because you want to stop kissing at a different point then your partner. Anybody who suggest otherwise is not worthy of your kisses in the first place. Ideally kissing should be part of a relationship built on trust, caring, respect and friendship. A person who is in the relationship for the right reasons would never need to make you feel bad about wanting to stop.

What is meant by first, second, and third base and homerun?

This one always confused me as a teen too. I was never sure what the lingo meant, although I was sure that homerun meant having sex. So, I asked around and was surprised to lean that most of my buddies aren't 100% on this one either. The general consensus seems to be the following; first base = kissing, second base = kissing and touching over clothes, third base = kissing and touching under clothes, home = sex. Now in my opinion these terms are usually used when reliving events for friends and are not a part of any moment of intimacy. Who ever got romantic by asking if they could make it to second base? If you want to know what this means so you can decipher the gossip you hear around school, fine, but if you are looking for the right words to describe your own activities you may want to think for a moment. When you get intimate with somebody there is an implied trust that should not be ignored. If you gossip about what you did you are betraying that trust and what does that say about you? The baseball analogy is a pretty immature way to talk about some very mature stuff and aren't you better than that?

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