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What does it mean to lose your virginity?
I propose that virginity is twofold. I think there is an
emotional virginity and a physical virginity. I think that to
truly no longer be a virgin you must give up both the emotional
attachment to your virginity and engage in physical acts of sex.
In my "definition", any intimate sex act which involves
nudity and stimulation with the goal of orgasm counts as sex. I
think nudity and stimulation are the "points of no return",
not penetration. Regardless of whether that act is heterosexual
or homosexual in nature, if you share your body with another
person, or if you give pleasure to another person that involves
orgasm or intends to cause orgasm, you have had sex. I also feel that virginity is not something you "lose" or something that is "taken", but something you share with another person, like a rare chocolate or a once in a life time sunset. If you haven't given it, it doesn't completely count as being gone.
I think that people who are raped and or molested are
still virgins in the emotional sense even if their body has had
sex. They have not stopped "being" a virgin, nor have
they experienced the emotions that go along with giving
ones body to another. If it is taken from you, although it may
physically be sex, I don't think that it is fair to tell you you
are no longer a virgin. You may still feel as if you have not had
sex, you may still view sex with naivety. Being victimized should
not force you to live with a label you neither wanted nor asked
for. Virginity is not something we passively lose, non-virginity is something we deliberately choose to take.
This is my personal view on the line between
virginity and non-virginity. What's yours?
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