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How old does a person have to be to have sex? How old can their partner be? Is it OK to have sex with somebody who is older
than you are or do you have to be the same age? What is meant by "the age of consent"?
A:
This is a very good question, and the answer is extremely
confusing. In order to make the explanation easier to follow
there are a few terms you should know. I will use these terms
frequently in answering this question. So, for the sake of
clarity, I will define them at the top of the page. If you know
what the Age of Consent is, you can go directly to our North
America Chart.
Age of Consent: The age at which
you can legally enter in to contract or agreements, including
saying "yes" to having sex. Usually this age is between
14 and 17, although it can be as young as 12 and as old as 18.
Age of Majority: The age at which
you are considered responsible and liable for actions or
inactions under the law. This is not the same as the age you must
be to; drive, smoke, drink alcohol, be forced in to the military
or even vote. In most parts of the world the age of majority is
18 or 19.
Statutory Rape:
(3 possibilities) Usually: someone over the age of
consent having sex with somebody who has not yet reached the age
of consent. More Commonly: a person at or over the age
of majority having sex with somebody under the age of consent. Can
Also Mean: a person at or over the age of majority having
sex with someone who has not yet reached the age of majority or
having sex with some one who is 4 or more years younger.
Sexual Intercourse: It is totally
biased, but for the sake of most laws, "sex" refers to
heterosexual contact between a male and a female. Some countries
don't define sex in this term, instead referring to "sexual
acts" that include a variety of sexual activities.
"Other" Sex: In the
law, also referred to as "oral sex", "anal sex"
or "sodomy" (In some parts of the planet this is
blanketed under "unnatural acts" - but we won't even
dignify this bigotry with any serious mention). Some countries
actually make these acts illegal and others have a different age
of consent for them. Also, depending on where you live, this may
be included in the broad definition given to "sexual acts".
Parental Consent: Your parents
permission, be it verbal or written, implied or expressed. (FYI -
a parent who buys you condoms but never says "it's OK for
you to have sex" could be said to be giving implied consent).
Heterosexual: Relations between
members of the opposite sex; female and male.
Homosexual: Relations between
members of the same sex; female to female, male to male.