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That is a matter of opinion. I think that the religious beliefs of people is far from what makes them good or worthy of love. BUT, if religion is important to you or your family, it may not be such a flexible issue.

I don't think it is ever a good idea to go into a relationship expecting your partner to change. It is a bad idea when you are in a relationship to expect your partner to change. You can never change another person, you can only change yourself.

If religion is important to you I would suggest that you not date outside of your faith, OR that if you do date outside of your faith you not hope that the other person will join the flock.

A commitment to Christianity is not something that should be done lightly. It is a personal thing between an individual and God. If you start to date a non-Christian and they change for you they have not commited to God, they have committed to doing what makes you happy. Do you see the difference?

Bottom line: you should never start dating somebody with the hope that you will be able to change, or "save", them. The only person you can ever change is yourself.

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