Date rape, also called acquaintance rape, is rape that occurs between two people who know one another and usually happens in social situations. It can happen between people who are dating as a couple and have had consensual sex in the past. It can happen between two people who are starting to date. It can happen between people who are just friends and it can happen between people who are friends of friends, a.k.a. acquaintances. You do not have to be on a date for a date rape to occur. The first and most important thing a guy needs to understand is that NO MEANS NO. This is a non-negotiable fact. As soon as the word “No,” comes out of her mouth you must stop what you are doing and you should not persist by trying again. Even if it is a hot and heavy make out session as soon as she puts the brakes on you must stop. Even if the kissing starts up again you must not move things any further than she clearly indicates she wants them to go. If you have even a shadow of a doubt about what she really wants you must stop altogether. Believe it or not guys, this is for your protection as much as it is for hers. Try not to lose sight of this fact. By stopping when she asks or when it is clear she is uncomfortable you are not only thinking of her (which is important) but you are protecting yourself. For everybody’s sake when she says “No,” or starts physically pushing you away even without saying no, or if she repeatedly stops you from moving past a certain point (for example: she is OK with kissing but physically stops you when you try to reach under her clothes - even without saying “no”) you MUST STOP. Just because she is OK with the kissing doesn’t mean she wants more. Kissing you is not a promise of giving in to anything you may want. Think of it this way, when you willingly give a buddy a ride home one day does that automatically mean you’ll do it everyday or that you’ll also start driving them to work and on errands as well? No, of course not. Consenting to one thing does not mean you are consenting to the same thing in the future, nor does it mean that you are consenting to similar or related things. This is the case with sexual contact. Just because a girl consents to one type of sexual interaction does not automatically mean she is open to others. Just because a girl has had sex with you in the past does not mean that she is obligated to have sex with you every time you get intimate together.
Date Rape: What happens when one or both of you are under the influence?
