Question: She Flirted with Someone Else! Is It Over for Good?
I broke up with my girlfriend because I found out she was flirting with another guy. I still like her a lot. She told me that she likes me too. I don't know what I should do. I'm afraid it may happen again. What should I do? Should I just move on?
Answer: To be honest, I think you overreacted by breaking up with your girlfriend just because she flirted with someone else. Even the most smitten boyfriends and girlfriends still can't help but be attracted to other people sometimes (it's just in our nature), and your girlfriend is probably only guilty of not knowing how to hide it better.
Plus, she might not have considered flirting to be a form of cheating (lots of people don't), so from her perspective, she wasn't really doing anything wrong. She deserves a second chance.
If you're both missing each other, then talk to her about it. It's not that big of a deal to swallow your pride and take her back.
But be sure to have an open, honest conversation about what kind of behavior you're OK with and what kind of behavior is a deal breaker. If you want to make flirting a break-uppable offense in your 2nd round of dating, you'll have to let her know up front.
That way, she can decide whether or not it's worth the cost of dating you.
Good luck!
xo,
Holly
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Plus, she might not have considered flirting to be a form of cheating (lots of people don't), so from her perspective, she wasn't really doing anything wrong. She deserves a second chance.
If you're both missing each other, then talk to her about it. It's not that big of a deal to swallow your pride and take her back.
But be sure to have an open, honest conversation about what kind of behavior you're OK with and what kind of behavior is a deal breaker. If you want to make flirting a break-uppable offense in your 2nd round of dating, you'll have to let her know up front.
That way, she can decide whether or not it's worth the cost of dating you.
Good luck!
xo,
Holly
Note: this was a real question left by a real person in the Teen Advice Forum! (It's been edited a little for the purposes of this article.) If you want to give him your own advice, leave it here. Or if you want to ask the forum your own question, come visit the forum.