Maybe you just met the guy or girl you want to ask out or maybe you've had a crush on them for a while. Either way, you'll never get together if one of you doesn't make the first move. Here are a few tips on how to ask that special someone on a date.
Time Required: 5 minutes
- Take a deep breath and try to stay calm. You want to seem interested in the other person but not desperate for attention.
- Think about why you like them. In your head, make a list of a few things you could talk about with this person -- or a question you've been wanting to ask them.
- Give them a call or find them online. Or, if you're brave, get them alone after school or somewhere that you often see each other.
- Ask them if they can talk for a couple of minutes. If it's not a good time to talk, ask them when a better time might be.
- When you find a good time to talk, have a conversation about something you have in common: a class, a neighborhood, a favorite band or sports team, etc.
- Once again, relax. Laugh when the other person says something funny. Listen to what they have to say. Be yourself.
- Tell them that something they just said is really great and ask them if they'd like to hang out sometime.
- If they say yes, make plans about when and how you want to get together. Good for you!
- If they say no, give yourself a pat on the back for trying. Everyone gets turned down sometimes, and you'll have plenty of chances to use this technique in the future.
- Above all else, be yourself. You want the other person to like you for you, not some phony version of you.
- Have an idea of what "hanging out" might consist of: a movie, a trip to the park, a get-together with some friends, etc. Share your idea with the other person and ask what they think.
- Try to do this when you're feeling good about yourself. If you've just received good news about something, there's a great reason to call up the person you like and spread the happiness around.
- If you get "no" for an answer, don't dwell on it. You're just as great as you were five minutes ago, but with a bit more dating experience.