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“We need to take a break!”
What does it really mean?

A few months ago my boyfriend of just over a year told me he wanted to take a break. He claims he still loves me and that he wants us to be together some day but says that right now he needs some space. We still hang out and when we do it’s as if nothing has changed and this makes it hard for me to open up to other guys. It feels like I’d be cheating if I made a date with somebody else. So now it’s like I’m just waiting for him to come around and tell me that he’s ready to recommit. Is he just trying to let me down easy? Am I crazy thinking we’ll ever get back together for real? How long should I hold out for him? Just what does it mean to “take a break” anyway?

Signed,
Heart Break

He says…
“I hate it when guys play this card. It is just cowardly. Take it from me, a former teenaged guy, if I want to take a break I don’t want to be with you. I may still like you. I may still be attracted to you. What I don’t want is to be your boyfriend and that means we are broken up…”
READ ALL OF WHAT MIKE HAS TO SAY

She says…
“This is a classic case of a person having their cake and eating it to, and you’re spoon-feeding the cake (a.k.a., you) to him! Give ME a break!! No matter what he calls it, right now the two of you are not a couple…”
READ ALL OF WHAT TINA HAS TO SAY

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