It is such a myth that girls dont like to let their guy just hang with the boys. It's a terrible lie perpetrated by relationship-phobes throughout the ages. It is totally untrue that we want you to give up your life to be with us. Think of it this way when we met you and fell for you, you were (hopefully) single and your friends were a big part of your life. Take your friends away and a big piece of the guy we fell for goes with them. So we want you to keep your guy time. We know you need your friends and truth be told we need our friends too. That being said, obviously when you are single you have lots of spare time to spend with friends but when you are in a relationship some of that time is going to be taken up by your significant other (A.K.A. us). That is only normal. It is normal for you to need your guy time and it is normal for you to want to spend time with us. If you find the right balance the guy-time issue quickly becomes a non-issue. It is when we feel like you dont make as much time for us as you do for them or that you resent being away from your friends when you are with us that the stereotypical girlfriend verses the friends scenario takes the stage. Its all about balance. Spending time with your friends or with us will never be an issue as long as there is a balance and as long as we never feel that they mean more to you than we do or that they come always first.
4. We want to know your friends but arent so sure you need to know ours.
Im not going to lie; this is hypocrisy in its most raw form. We want you to bring us around your friends, we want to know them and we want them to like us, but we arent quite as crazy about you knowing our friends. The why of this is as simple as it is irrational and here it is we want to know your boys so we can understand the kinds of things they may get you to do when were not around. In short, will they encourage you to cheat on us, will they get you doing reckless and dangerous things, and will they help you engage in self-destructive activities? What we want to know is if they will be good or bad influences on you. We also want to create a buffer; we want your friends to like us so that they wont want you to lose us. If there is no tension between your friends and us then we dont need to fear them asking you to choose between love and friendship. Now on the flip side, we dont really want you getting all chummy with our friends because we dont want them to fill you in on all of our dirty little secrets. As previously noted girls are talkers by nature and we dont want them to let something slip that may make you raise an eyebrow in our direction. We also fear, but will never admit fearing, you wanting one of our friends more than you want us. Its bad enough to lose your guy to another girl but when that girl was once a friend, well, the sting is even sharper. So allow us this hypocrisy. Its irrational, that's true, but its also quite harmless.
5. We worry that other girls look better now that you are in a relationship.
Mike nailed the core of every girlfriend's relationship insecurity on the head when he brought up the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome). The idea that life is better on the other side is one of the most destructive forces in relationship world and girls feel that guys fall for it way too often. It is a great fear of ours that once you cant have other girls you will suddenly want them all. It leads to a lot of unfounded jealousy brought on by innocent comments on your part or casual non-flirtatious conversations with other girls. So whats a guy to do? In a perfect world youd stop interacting with other girls altogether but our rational super-ego knows thats not realistic. What you need to do is follow these three simple rules; 1) never pay more attention to another girl than you do to your girlfriend, 2) never comment over and over how hot/cool/nice/fun another girl is, and 3) if you meet a great girl while youre in a relationship hook her up with one of your buddies (also known as taking her off the market and getting her out of our face). And should you ever really get the itch to jump the fence and live life on the other side... just do it! Dont lead us on, dont cheat on us, dont sneak around, just end the relationship. If it ends up being a GIGS fueled mistake oh well, consider it a hard lesson learned and leave us alone... we won't want you back anyway!