A lot of you have been sending me questions about anal sex - what it is, how safe it is and how to have it. I've created this guide to help provide some answers. If there's something else you want to know about sex that you're still not clear about, check this sex Q&A guide
or feel free to drop me a line.
What is Anal Sex?
Anal sex is any type of sex that involves penetrating someone's anus. It carries some of the same physical and emotional risks as any other kind of sex.
Why Would People Have Anal Sex?
Because for some people, it feels good. The anus has a lot of nerve endings that can provide pleasure when they're touched or stimulated.
Is Anal Sex Just For Gay People?
Nope - heterosexual couples can have it, too. Having anal sex doesn't say or mean anything about your sexual orientation.
Is Anal Sex Safe?
No sex is 100% safe. There's always a risk of STD's like AIDS
and genital herpes
(just to name a couple) no matter how safe you think you're being. Still, if you use a condom
and water-based lubricant
every time you have anal sex, you'll be cutting the risks. Read this guide
to learn how to use a condom.
Does Anal Sex Hurt?
It can, especially if you're not sure you're ready to have it. If you do feel ready to have anal sex, it's important to use lots of lubrication
, to go slowly, and to be clear with your partner about any time you want to slow down or stop.
Can You Get Pregnant From Anal Sex?
Since there's no contact between the penis and the vagina during anal sex, there's no risk of pregnancy. But that doesn't mean that anal sex doesn't come without consequences
If You Have Anal Sex, Are You Still a Virgin?
The word "virgin" means different things to different people. Some people think you can only lose your virginity by having vaginal sex, while others think that any
type of sexual activity is enough to lose your virginity. So you're gonna have to answer this question on your own. Bottom line: don't do anything you think you'll regret later, and don't let anyone try to convince you to do something you're not sure you want to do.