Question: I Hate My Skinny Body!
Some people say things like, "you have a good body shape." But then I look at other girls and they have more curves than me. I always have this pressure that I won’t get any boys or I'm too skinny and I wear a size 34A bra and size 2 jeans. Even my little 11 year-old sister has more body than me. Please help!
Answer: You've probably heard all this before, but seriously, you have got to stop worrying about what guys think of your body. Most guys like girls of all different shapes and sizes (including yours), but one thing that guys generally don't like is girls who are constantly worrying that they don't measure up. Your body is just fine, but your insecurity might be driving people away.
You've got to work on building up your self-confidence - not for the sake of your love life or social life, but because it'll make you feel better all around. It won't happen overnight, but if you follow these steps, your self-esteem will get stronger.
And you've got to quit comparing your body to other girls' bodies. You've heard the expression, "the grass is always greener on the other side"? Well, the body is always better on the other side, too. All girls want to change something about the way they look, and I'm sure there are plenty of girls who'd love to swap bodies with you. But that sort of thinking won't get you anywhere. You've got to learn to love what you've got, not obsess over what you can't change.
And not that this is what it's all about...but once you start thinking confidently about yourself, you'll be surprised at how many more people want to be around you. Not because you'll look any different, but because self-esteem is pretty attractive.
xo,
Holly
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You've got to work on building up your self-confidence - not for the sake of your love life or social life, but because it'll make you feel better all around. It won't happen overnight, but if you follow these steps, your self-esteem will get stronger.
And you've got to quit comparing your body to other girls' bodies. You've heard the expression, "the grass is always greener on the other side"? Well, the body is always better on the other side, too. All girls want to change something about the way they look, and I'm sure there are plenty of girls who'd love to swap bodies with you. But that sort of thinking won't get you anywhere. You've got to learn to love what you've got, not obsess over what you can't change.
And not that this is what it's all about...but once you start thinking confidently about yourself, you'll be surprised at how many more people want to be around you. Not because you'll look any different, but because self-esteem is pretty attractive.
xo,
Holly
Note: this was a real question left by a real person in the Teen Advice Forum! (It's been edited a little for the purposes of this article.) If you want to give her your own advice, leave it here. Or if you want to ask the forum your own question, come visit the forum.