When you seek to justify this relationship to outsiders you may often find yourself stating that you’re just really mature for your age, and hey, that may even be true but this guy is also really immature for his age and that just can’t be good. Now at this point in the game, in a last attempt to justify your love you may defensively ask why people frown upon a teen dating an older man but have no problem when someone in their 30’s dates someone in their 50’s. The answer here is simple; life experience. People in their 30’s and 50’s have both lived life as adults, are likely both established in their adulthood, have finished school and are grounded in careers, basically they have become peers in the eyes of society. People in their teens and 30’s are not peers by any stretch of the imagination and do not share this wealth of life experience; a teens’ life is just starting while a 30 years olds’ life is in full swing.
So there you have it; questionable motivation on the older man’s part combined with a lack of shared life experiences are the biggest reasons this type of relationship should never happen. But if these very good reasons don’t send you packing and you do decide to stay in the relationship don’t lie to your parents about his age because that just stinks of immaturity and a guilty conscience. The fact you’re even thinking of lying shows that you yourself know on some level that this relationship isn’t sitting on a solid foundation. Best bet, dump the older man and open your heart to love with somebody whose life experience better matches your own.
