How Long Had You Been Dating Before the Breakup?
About a year
Who Broke Up with Whom?
I dumped him, but right before he walked out
How Did the Breakup Go Down?
In our relationship's first few stages, he was really sweet. In fact, he was the best ever! But things got bad quickly - he got addicted to video games. Before I knew it, I was loaning him so much cash I didn't have any money for ME. Finally, I told him I wasn't going to lend him anything until her paid me back. He got really angry and didn't talk to me for a while, but we hadn't officially "Broken Up". I started seeing my money disappear from my dresser drawer, and I found a personal item I'd been looking for and thought I had misplaced in the local pawn shop. So I met up with him, and I told him we were breaking up
How Did You Get Over the Breakup?
I purchased my personal item back and I went to my room and I had a good, long, cry. Luckily it was around summer time, and because my parents were fighting again, I was sent to my aunt's beach house for the summer. It really helped. I got a job as a lifeguard (after getting certified :P), and I spent all my spare time on the beach and working out. By the end of the summer, I was confident that I was lovable, I looked great, and I had had an AMAZING fling. When I got home, my confident feeling still stayed and I kept swimming. It was also useful knowing what a breakup is like because my parents were on the brink of breaking up and I understood. Over the school year, I realized that I go to family member's houses too often and now is not the time for a bf. But I've stayed busy - I've been tracking down my dad and helping my sisters cope with my parents.
Lessons Learned
- My mistake was giving him too much of my life. By our six-month anniversary, he had a key to my house (my parents really liked him, too).
- I depended on him for all of my support and he wasn't responsible enough to take that yet.
- I let him think it was OK to use me
- I was too nice
- I had to find out the hard way that I'm not ready in this time in life. (B. A. - I AM REALLY SORRY IF YOU'RE READING THIS!! HONEST, I AM!!)
- I learned that I can use my experience to help others (E.J - Hang in there, girl! U r strong, u can do it!)
- Most first relationships end in a break-up (E.J - And a lot of 2nd's do to)