How Long Had You Been Dating Before the Breakup?
3/4 months
Who Broke Up with Whom?
He broke up with me
How Did the Breakup Go Down?
My boyfriend texts me one afternoon saying "I've got something to tell you", I thought it would be the usual "I love you" trying to get me in a panic. In fact he texts me sayin "Last night at the party I had sex with another girl". I was in complete denial, I didn't want to believe that he would do such a thing. Nethertheless, he had. I told him that we could make amends and start again, but he didn't want to. I was mortfied, I put on an act that I wasn't bothered and that he was just a loser, but in fact it hurt so much inside. I would sit in my bed and just think about him making things worse!
How Did You Get Over the Breakup?
One piece of advice I can give anyone it, it's not easy. The day I found out was a big blur. I remember walking out of the pub whilst the World Cup game was on and my Dad asked what was wrong, I just said "I'm going for a walk, meet you at home". I put my ear phones in and went for a very long walk. I knew that we couldn't get back together, I wouldn't be able to trust him. I went to school the next day and all my friends were really supportive, (thankfully we didn't go to the same school) and they were always there for me if I needed a chat. If I'm honest, there is not way of getting over a breakup. You have to just give things time. I saw that he had a new girlfriend on facebook and I was mortified and made a fake account and got him to dump her. However, I realised that was wrong. You can't go and do that! I tried keeping as much in as possible, I don't want to show that I'm weak! I remember I saw him when I was shopping once and it threw me away, it took me back to square one, but I knew things would get easier. I realised that I didn't miss him, I missed the company. I wouldn't think about him much when I was with my friends, it was when I got home I would feel for him the most. So what I did was just let time pass, and before you know it, somebody else is taking his place, somebody who again, will break your heart. But heartache is part of being young.
Lessons Learned
- Make sure you spend every single second with a boy as if it was your last, 'cause you don't know when it's gonna come.
- DO NOT try and be friends straight after the break up, it won't work.
- Your friends tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear.
- Be honest with yourself, don't sell yourself any cheaper than your worth.
- Show that your weak, 'cause that shows how strong you really are.
- Don't rush into a relationship.
- What goes around come around.
- This is just the start of heartache