How Long Had You Been Dating Before the Breakup?
One and a half years.
Who Broke Up with Whom?
He broke up with me.
How Did the Breakup Go Down?
Prior to breaking up with me there was a girl. She didn't like me one bit, and the two of them were friends. He went away one weekend to camp, and she was there. I think, but am not certain, that the two of them talked about me. Just the week before we broke up, the two of us were having so much fun together. Then he was ignoring me after he got back. And I was really concerned, and kept asking, and he just told me to leave him alone. Three days later I asked to talk to him, and he broke up with me, claiming throughout the entire relationship he was depressed, and he felt like he was always having to make me happy.
How Did You Get Over the Breakup?
It has been extremely hard. That same girl who doesn't like me wrote about me online, saying how happy she was that the relationship was over. Our relationship ending hurt me more than anything in this world. I gave him my virginity, and he was my first love. And now, I feel like I'll never get a part of me back. And that's what hurts the most.
I know we are better off apart, but I want to be friends, because previous to us dating, we were best friends. And so now I lost my best friend too.
I'd also appreciate it if he would treat me like a normal person and not like "his ex". It feel so awkward when we see each other. So I am still not really over it, but I'm really trying. Finally I deleted his saved texts, contact info, gave back his clothes, and I boxed up what I had from him and gave it to a friend to keep for a while.
Lessons Learned
- Don't ever give up on yourself if someone dumps you. You are a wonderful person, and that person leaving you is happening for a reason, something better will come. Really.
- Don't lose your virginity. Give your virginity... to someone who will truly love and care for you, and will realize what a big step you took, and respect it.
- Do learn to love yourself. Truly love yourself.
- Don't let people tell you who to live your life, don't let your significant other 'control' you in wrong ways. Manipulation is a scary thing in relationships.