How Long Had You Been Dating Before the Breakup?
2 months, but it seems longer and deeper than that, at least to me
Who Broke Up with Whom?
He did
How Did the Breakup Go Down?
He told me I didn't act like his girlfriend because I didn't know when he was sad or tired. This is just a lame excuse because I know the real reason is that my best friend flirted with him, told him to dump me and then she would dump her boyfriend (who is also his friend) to be with him. And now we broke up and I lost both my boyfriend and best friend. This happened on the first day of this year (yes, 3 days ago) at the cafe lounge where we had our first date. He told me we should separate because he needs time to focus on his career and family and think more about his feelings. Very cliche!!!
How Did You Get Over the Breakup?
It's my first love so this is the first time I ever felt so lost, and the shock of finding out my best friend betrayed me to get my boyfriend hurt me so bad. My heart broke, my trust was destroyed by two people I used to love. I thought I die inside, now I still don't want to do anything at all, just curl up in my room crying my eyes out. I miss my ex a lot, I blamed my best friend for stealing him, blamed my ex for leaving me for her, blamed myself for letting this happen (even when I know this is NOT my fault if they decide to cheat on me). I edited the contact names of my ex and the ex best friend on my phone, no more nicknames for them, no more birthdays, anniversaries, contact photos... but I still keep their numbers so that in the future if they want to contact me I'll have a few seconds to prepare. My ex and I work for the same company but in different departments (and different places), so I avoid him by contacting his co-workers instead of him. At home I put away his presents or things that remind me of him. And I told my parents and friends, I couldn't take it anymore. I know I did the right thing because I feel better by sharing my feelings with them, listening to their advice and comfort. My mother even sleeps with me at nights and my friends came to my house right after I told them about the "crisis". I still cry every morning and can't sleep at nights. My dad told me to buy me a new cell phone when I told him even my current one reminds me of my ex. Going out is a good thing since staying in my room sometimes traps me into my own bad mood, though at first it's the best place to hide me from the world so I can let out my sadness. I search the Internet for articles about breakups and how to get over it, this site is one of my discoveries, and in fact, it helps. Today is my first day at work after the holiday (he broke up with me on New Year), working while you feel dead inside is very hard, so I share my story to my most confidential co-worker who is also my friend, I talk to her when I feel most depressed. I try to focus on my work, which is almost impossible, but at least I try, and I can escape the pain for a while.
Lessons Learned
- I'd care more for my boyfriend.
- I'd notice all the signals all the other girls (including my best friend) send to my boyfriend.
- I'd keep an eye on what belongs to me.
- **** If all those things can't prevent the breakup, now i know how to get over it:
- Let myself cry for the first few days.
- Talk to my loved ones, I'm so lucky to have my parents and friends who always willingly listen to me and comfort me.
- Put aways all things reminds me of my ex and my best friend.
- Hanging out with my friends.
- Read articles (or write them) about how to get over a bad breakup.