How Long Had You Been Dating Before the Breakup?
It would've been 5 months, starting the first of November.
Who Broke Up with Whom?
He broke up with me.
How Did the Breakup Go Down?
My friend told me that my boyfriend had planned on spending Saturday with me; because we hardly get to. So I had been looking forward to this Saturday. Then he texted me with, "Do you have time to go for a walk?" And from that one text, I knew something was up, I knew what was coming and my heart began to race. He showed up at my house, we went on a walk, as soon as we were out of sight from my house, he gave me a hug and then sort of stumbled around the subject, until I just said, "So, you want to break it off." And he said he did, the long distance thing just wasn't working for him and he still wanted to be friends.
How Did You Get Over the Breakup?
The day of, I managed to keep myself completely composed in front of him. But once he was out of my sight, I was a wreck. Seeing as he was my best friend for more than a year before we got together. I couldn't stop crying, especially because I couldn't even be thankful for all the good times we shared because he said he now thought of me as a sister. His feelings for me had changed in less than a week. But by the next day(today) and after finally telling him EVERYTHING I felt and was on my mind, face to face, I felt a lot of closure. Yes, falling in love with your best friend is a risk, but it was AMAZING while it lasted and I would never trade what we had for anything. I realized that I would never stop loving him, but that I know that I'll be able to make room in my heart for someone else. For me, the best thing is to just stay out of each others lives. It's the best for me, if I stay around him, I know I'll just wind up back at square one; loving him and not having that love returned and that was even more painful than this. Sure, I'm only a day into my grieving process and this is my first love, but I know I'll eventually be okay; regardless of how terrible I feel now.
Lessons Learned
- If I could do it all over again, I'd try to communicate more with him on how I'm feeling, since we only got to see each other once a week (he's in his first year of University and I'm in my last year of high school). I feel like it would've lasted longer and his feelings for me wouldn't have fizzled out so fast if we had tried to stay in touch more, plan more private times just for us, etc. But, it's over now, so I can't really do anything about it now.