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"We Helped Each Other Onto a Trampoline"

Share Your Story: My First Love

From Lexi

Who Was It With?

Zack

When Did You Realize It was Love?

Late 5th grade (now it's the summer break between 6th and 7th)

What Did It Feel Like?

Well, I guess it was cool. I mean, he also kinda had the same feelings about me for maybe... a month? And I was happy when I was with him, and OK without him - phones and email were used A LOT! In the beginning of me noticing I liked him, I searched the internet trying to find the difference between love, lust, and obsession. I decided it was not lust or obsession.

What Happened Next?

As I said, he said he loved me for about a month. We got together, the biggest thing we did was hold hands to help each other onto a trampoline when help wasn't needed. I was truly happy those 30 days.

Then this person named Nicole on my soccer team (who I never really liked) met Zack. I found out he liked her one day while we were walking through the woods (silently) and I experimentally slid my hand into his. He pulled away, and...yeah. After he told me he didn't love me I told him that I don't love him anymore, either. We're still really good friends and I'm glad he didn't go and date her or something without telling me. I value his path and got on with my life...but I still secretly love him. Just waiting for him to realize.

Lessons Learned

  • Check your facts before you spill the beans.
  • Savor every moment of it - it will probably end soon.
  • When they move on, if you still love them, don't look for someone else. Just keep quiet until they notice.
  • Never give up, but never push it.

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