When Did It Happen?
during my first semester in college
Where Did It Happen?
at a bar
What Had You Been Drinking?
vodka and beer
What Went Wrong?
I didn't realize how far I was going with this one guy on the dance floor and when one thing lead to another, he was touching me in ways that I didn't want to be touched. Then, my friend wanted to hang out with his boy back in our dorm and he ended up spending the night with me and him with her...
What were the Consequences?
I feel extremely violated. I am not sure if I was sexually assaulted, harassed, raped, or whatever but I know that I feel extremely violated. Every time I think about this boy, I just want to throw up. I felt dirty for a very long time after that and had to do a lot to finally feel like the person I am and want to be.
Lessons Learned
- If you're uncomfortable, speak up. If you feel that you have to say something in the first place, you don't need to impress them. Telling them that you feel violated is a good thing. Clearly, he/she is not a good person and you don't want them around you anyway.
- You can drink but make sure you monitor how much you drink and what you drink. Some things turn you into a belligerent monster. Those drinks should be avoided at all costs.
- Be smart. You're not perfect and you will make mistakes but you can limit the types of mistakes. Be safe :)